First, listen. If you are willing to listen, you'll be amazed by the things you learn - facts, perspectives, perceptions and realities. The greatest gift you can give others is a listening ear. The best advice you give others all too often comes from your silent, attentive listening when they can rationalize and process their own thoughts and feelings.
Second, support and care. Give those you care about most - your 'family' - unconditional, non-judgemental support. More importantly that willingness to support is telling others you care. Let others know you love them and want the best for them. Let them know you're willing to listen and spend time with them.
Third, attentiveness and being actively engaged. We live a world where attentiveness is a dying art form. How often are you with others while they are consumed by social media, their phone or other technology? Be attentive to the people you're with and the opportunity you have to develop meaningful relationships with others. You'd be amazed at what you can learn by being actively engaged with those around you - on-campus, at dinner, etc. Yes, you can be actively engaged with your phone; but, the harsh reality is that a phone is not capable of a 'real' relationship.
Four and five are works in progress... taking time to think.
